boiling the frog: an old fantasy I have

The fantasy goes like so:

I'm going out with a guy, and once we start sleeping together and staying over at each others houses he starts working on his plan. One time i'm staying at his and the next morning, I can't find my underwear, so i just laugh it off and go without it. He finds them and gives them back to me later, no big deal. But the next time I'm over at his, it happens again. This happens pretty continually and slowly- so slowly i don't really realise it- all of my underwear is being replaced by similar looking but skimpier pairs. You know how you don't notice your hair or nails grow? It would be like that. Within a couple months I'd only be wearing tiny g-strings, and never question it. He would gaslight me and convince me they always looked like that, i'm being silly, the underwear couldn't magically get smaller stupid!

It's simple, it's basic, it's not very daring, but i love it. It's almost plausible, i could just play dumb and let it happen. He'd kinda own me.

but boiling the frog kinda fantasies are always my favourite. Paired with dubcon, hypno, conditoning, etc. A step brother or male friend or roomate or boyfriend or coworker or boss slowly normalising obscene things to you. Like the idea of someone normalising touching you without consent. At first in a totally nonsexual way, just shoulders, moving you when they pass by, leading you somewhere by touching your back or grabbing your arm/ elbow, then accidentally brushing your tits when they pass or reach past you.

I saw a tumblr post once when i was young that totally changed my brain chemistry- it was about normalising touching them accidentally or groping/ touching a girls boobs if they're big- gaslighting her into thinking it's okay because they're bigger, she's asking for it, they're taking up more space.

Then groping etc, asking for sexual favours blah blah. this works best when it's a boss or a figure with some kind of power or closeness.

But i think having a roomate or someone steal your underwear/ clothes and control how I dress is a big one.

I wrote a whole ass erotica smut story where this girl backpacking around europe with some friends gets slwoly hypnotised in her sleep everynight by one of her male friends to be more slutty. Cause he whispers it to her when she's falling asleep, she thinks she's dreaming it and never questions it but it slowly sinks into her subconscious. Like at first he tells her her bra is really itchy and uncomfortable, and she goes without it the next dya cause he planted that idea in her head. And it's france of whatever, all the girls go braless there. Then slowly, he gets her to do the same with her knickers, wear sluttier clothes, treat the trip like a rumspringa where she should experiment with casual sex and with her female co-travellers etc. And by the end she's a totally different person

I wrote like half of it but i can't find it anywhere. maybe it got deleted :(